It's important to have a method for coping with immense rage. I recommend composing an angry letter or giving an angry lecture. The key is to not deliver the letter or the lecture. Just compose it. Save the email to draft or delete it, or rip up or burn the letter. Give the lecture in your head to the imaginary version of the offender.
If you do compose the letter or give the lecture out loud, I recommend doing it in your car when you are alone. Be prepared to accept that the people in the cars around you might come to the conclusion that you are just a touch crazy. If you have a bluetooth, first of all I will mock you mercilessly, but this might convince people that you are, in fact, not yelling at thin air or an imaginary friend in the passenger seat.
If you are composing your lecture or letter in your head, I recommend the gym. Not only does the rage make you want to run faster or punch harder, but you can put your adrenaline to good use, and at the end you have this wonderfully release of endorphins to bring you back to your happy place.
There are benefits to using these methods. First, you get in less fights. By not actually yelling at people, you keep more friends. Second, you work out a super good argument for when you do sit down and have a calm, rational discussion about how you are right and they are wrong. You have prepared yourself for every scenario by duking it out in your head, and can therefore help them see the error of their ways more quickly and cheerfully. Third, less injuries occur. You have worked out your aggressions ahead of time so you are not forced to cause them bodily injury for their stupidity.
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