Honest and Rude are Not the Same Thing

Hey Fellas. Here's something that is not hot. Being rude, and pretending like you're just being honest, and were duty-bound to spew forth your toxicness.

Here is my response: No. No you are not duty-bound to be rude.

To say to your loved one, who is expressing concern for your well-being "shut up and back off" might just acheive exactly that. Said loved one might shut up. Might back off. You may not hear from them in any meaningful way again, because your hostility indicates that their opinion is not valued.

Here's an alternative. Say "that's an interesting way to look at it. Here's how I see it. These are the facts I base my opinion on. I guess you and I just see things differently. That's why I choose the path I am choosing. Thanks for taking the time to worry." Or, even "respectfully, I choose not to follow your advice." Or, "thanks for thinking of me!" But definitely NOT "SHUT UP AND BACK OFF."

Taking the energy you have to aim acid words and angry attitudes towards those who love you is silly. You're kind of missing out on all the perks of the relationship. Also, you're no fun to be around. And it's not hot.

On the other hand, it does make me happy to be single.