I don't understand people who are entertained by seeing their friends stress. I am a worrier, which some people seem to find amusing, and to toy with. I, on the other hand, worry that something I have said or done will upset a friend. I do not understand why something that I have expressed that clearly hurts me (and in my opinion, by extension, our relationship) is something that they are okay with continuing on with. I've decided that said people have the same characteristic in common: they suck at listening. Apparently they don't think I'm serious. I am.
I think there should be clear, written rules about teasing for all grownups to use. We should have a safe word. Like lickety split. Okay, that's two words. My point is, if teasing is hurtful, it's not funny anymore. I think one of the big no-no's is teasing in front of groups of people, especially if you know it's a huge flaw. Especially if you know it's something the person is sensitive about. To me, if I see one friend do that to another friend, I know the teaser is not a very good friend to the tease-ee. It shows insecurity on the part of the teaser. When eight year olds do it, we sagely point that out to them. Why is it that we still do it as adults, then?
If someone tells you they don't like it when you tease them constantly about... let's say their moments of ditziness, that is the same thing as saying "lickety split." That means stop.
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